Jealousy – How to Deal with the Green-Eyed Monster

Oh, beware, my lord, of jealousy!
It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock
The meat it feeds on.

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In Shakespeare’s Othello, the character Iago warns Othello to beware of jealousy, as he says it’s the green-eyed monster that makes fun of the victims it devours.

Where does jealousy come from?

I believe it’s easy to get distracted from what’s really important in your journey when things aren’t going quite the way you want them to, or when it’s taking success a lot longer to show up than you expected her to.

It’s easy to start looking around at what other people are doing, primarily successful people, and you become dismayed or even jealous of them.

How does jealousy get started and how does it take root?

It might start with questioning another’s success. You ask, how did that person get so far in his career? Or, you may start to question whether he is really all that good.

And you might start to speculate whether the person would be where she is if she wasn’t as well-connected.

You might say these are just questions. You might call them simple musings. But the truth is these are examples of how envy and jealousy reveal themselves.

This is how they take root in our psyche. I know this to be true because I’ve experienced it personally in my writing journey.

So be vigilant, and be on your guard. Because if you haven’t yet experienced jealousy of someone else’s success, it doesn’t mean it can’t or won’t happen.

Jealousy is as old as time.

Jealousy’s evil twin envy is considered one of the seven deadly sins, and it’s as old as the beginning of time. It is said to be the motivation behind Cain murdering his brother, Abel.

Cain became jealous of Abel because God favored Abel’s sacrifice over Cain’s.

And since there’s nothing new under the sun, it should come as no surprise that jealousy is still raising her head today trying to side track you from fulfilling your God-given purpose.

What I know to be true:

• When you’re busy looking at what someone else is doing, you take your eyes off your own goals and desires.

• When you’re busy focusing on your own goals, you don’t have time to be envious of anyone else’s success.

• It’s easy to think that because someone is successful they have it all together or that somehow their path has been less difficult.

The truth is, that person’s life may be falling apart all around them. And their journey might have been more difficult than yours, but their time for success has finally arrived, and that’s all you see.

How to stop jealousy in her tracks!

• Be confident in your own gifts and talents. However if you know you have a weakness in an area that’s hampering your success, read a book or take a course to improve in that area.

• Know that you don’t have to be jealous or envious of anyone because what is destined for you no one can take away.

• Count your blessings. When you’re looking at someone else’s success you’re counting their blessings. When you count your own it refocuses you on what’s really important in your life.

• Celebrate other’s success. When it’s your turn to celebrate your success, you’ll want others to rally around you.

• And if you can learn from another’s success, do so. It may prove to be a short cut to your own success.

So have you experienced jealousy when you’ve looked at the success of another? What was your strategy for dealing with it? Drop me a line.

As always, thanks for stopping by!

Catherine

2 thoughts on “Jealousy – How to Deal with the Green-Eyed Monster

  1. Another great article Catherine! I have not felt jealous or envious often, but when I have, I’ve tried to recognize that this is their season for that/those blessing(s). If it was someone that I didn’t have a personal attachment to, I let it go. If it was a friend or loved one, I let that “green” become the fertilizer it is, discarded it and rejoiced, celebrating their moment. Lastly, I put my shoes back on and continued to run my own race.

  2. Wow!!! I think that is sage advice for all of us, Louise. I especially like turning the green into fertilizer. That’s priceless! Thank you so much for stopping by again and leaving a comment!

    Catherine

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